What is Anxiety?
ANXIETY IS NOT AN ILLNESS
- In the adult U.S. population 54% of women and 46% of men experience anxiety disorder. (Source: ADAA) *This stats raises to 70-85% if extended to the general population suffering undiagnosed anxiety.
- Over 78.6 million Americans numb their brains with psychiatric drugs to cope with anxiety .(Source:IMS Health)
- Alcoholism is the first largest mental health care problem in the world today, depression is second, and social anxiety is third. (Source: SAA) * Alcoholism and depression are direct consequences of anxiety disorder.
- By 2020, mental disorders and substance abuse together will surpass all physical disorders as the major cause of disability worldwide. (Source: SAMHSA)
These shocking numbers are defining anxiety as the number one disorder of our time. So, what is this dragon that chokes our society and many of us?
Well, anxiety is just a natural and healthy feeling. Yes! Anxiety is a healthy feeling used by the mind to prevent troubles. This means that If our mind see troubles approaching, will use anxiety to compel us to avoid the situation or do something about it. Something like “Hallo! we are getting in trouble, what are we going to do about it?”. This is a natural and healthy response and do not includes physical discomfort.
The problem comes when we can’t figure-out what to do. This feels scary and engages our mind in a frantic search for possible options, escalating anxiety to fear. Fear, to get us ready to ‘fight or flight’, releases in or body the stress hormones, Cortisol, Adrenalin and Norepinephrine.
Since we don’t ‘fight or flight’, these chemicals stay unused in our body, building stress and discomfort, and in the long-term digestive problems, muscle pain, hypertension and fatigue. If this painful process is protracted over time, it may degenerate into obsessive, exhausting and debilitating emotional loops. This causes procrastination, feeling overwhelmed, poor performance, addictions and in severe cases, depression. Sound familiar?
So, if anxiety is a healthy feeling used by the mind to prevent troubles, what are the troubles that can cause such a relentless stress and anxiety?
Let’s break the causes of anxiety in reactive and proactive.
- Reactive is the anxiety that response to a real or imaginary threat, to something that feels dangerous.
- Proactive is the anxiety that response to the generalized feeling of being vulnerable and unprotected.
Let’s explore first the reactive anxiety. Our mind has a defensive program that has the task to protect us from potential hazards. This program recovers from our life experiences, a list of emotional and physical hazards, things like fire, tiger, rejection, eviction, failure, etc. This list is constantly matched with all what we see, hear, smell, think or feel. If one of the listed is immediatly present, the survival system activates an instantaneous fight-or-flight response, no thinking time, just action. If instead the threat is imminent but not yet present, the survival system activates anxiety.
In my work, I discovered that a large amount of the threats causing anxiety, are false hazards. These may be wrong data received from our parents, how many of you is frighten of spiders because your mom was petrified in front of them; or may be items or situations that we mistakenly perceived as dangerous, this are often caused by traumatic experiences (PTSD); or eventually threats that where effectively dangerous in the past but today are harmless. If one or more of these false threats are in our daily life, our survival system will keep us constantly in a status of emergency.
The good news is that we can clear rather easily false hazards, I created techniques that does this successfully, we will explore this in other parts of this program.
The other cause of anxiety, is the proactive anxiety caused by feeling unprotected and vulnerable. In my opinion the proactive anxiety is responsible for most of the actual psychological crisis. This condition is caused by Adult Emotional Dependency (AED), we will talk extensively about this condition in other parts of this program. In simple words, the proactive anxiety is a natural feature built in children minds securing their safety. It’s not always present, it only becomes active if the child feels unprotected. If you have children, you have certainly witness your child panicking if you or some someone trustful is not present. This sense of vulnerability is meant to terminate around puberty, but it only happens if we become emotionally self-reliant, which is not the case for most. Therefore, we maintain throughout life, the unconscious feeling of a dangerous vulnerability. This creates constant anxiety.
The other good news is that we can resolve Adult Emotional Dependency in a rather short time, embracing emotional self-leadership and self-reliance.
To cut the long story short, our mind is naturally healthy, we are in rather safe world, therefore anxiety should be rear or not existent in our lives. If we experience recurring anxiety, we are not ill and we should not take drugs for it, we should instead focus removing the root-causes of the condition. Which is the only solution that grants long lasting results.
Let's explore this further keeping it simple!
The 3 main root-causes of your anxiety (if you are not in a war-zone) are:
- Dependency from the world around you. - Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) "If you depend for emotional support from 'others' - this vulnerability makes 'others' potentially dangerous to you."
- Unmanaged thoughts and emotions. "If you can't manage your thought and emotions - everything that you feel or think may become dangerous to you."
- Psychological traumas. "If you are confused about what is dangerous and what is not -everything may feel dangerous to you".
Your brain prioritizes survival over every other functions. Thus, if you feel constantly under attack, your brain will invest most of your brainpower to face the potential danger. Survival should be used only for rear and real emergencies; unfortunately, our society has trained us to use it for most tasks. These are some of the main consequences:
Do you feel overwhelmed?
60-80% of your brainpower may be used by your survival to deal with anxiety and fear. The remaining brainpower is not enough to process your thoughts successfully and have a clear mind.
Do you procrastinate?
Do you feel depressed?
80-95% of your brainpower may be used by your survival. The remaining brainpower is not enough to process the essential daily tasks, thus you are frozen. As soon as you remove unwanted/false 'threats' from your life, depression will fade away.
Do you abuse alcohol and/or drugs?
Alcohol and drugs are survival suppressant. Your mind uses these options to suppress your survival and to free braipower. As soon as you remove unwanted 'threats' from your life, addictions will fade away.
Do you perform below your potential?
60-80% of your brainpower may be used by your survival. Only a fraction of your potential is allocated to performance. Clearing your fear will automatically improve your performance in every aspect of your life. This includes work, school, sport, creativity, relationships, etc.
Do you feel isolated?
Do you experience social anxiety?
Do you lack confidence and self-esteem?
You can only feel judged or rejected if you give power to 'others' to judge you or reject you. Clear your need of 'others' for your emotional fulfillment, your survival will quiet and your confidence will rise.
Are you to often angry?
Did you lost your libido?
It sounds to simple? Well... it's as simple as it sounds. CognitiveOS Hypnosis® has proven these facts with thousands of clients.
As soon as you able to remove the need of 'others', transforming dependency to interdependency, manage thoughts and emotions, and remove false threats from your life, most or all the above conditions, if mind related (not organic), will disappear.
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