Adult Emotional Dependency (AED)


Adult Emotional Dependency (AED)

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) is the” until-today unidentified”, most common psychological condition on earth; the main root-cause of uncharted anxiety & fear.

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) defines the devastating mental condition caused by the continuation in adulthood of Emotional Dependency. Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) is an obsolete mind-program, age inappropriate,  which compels grownups to act like children in the need for love, protection and guidance.

This condition causes generalized anxiety, fear of judgement and  rejection, need for approval, confidence issues, social anxiety, depression, addictions, feeling overwhelmed and tired, poor performance and much more...  

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) can be resolved in jus a few weeks with CognitiveOS Hypnosis®.

Emotional Dependency is an essential behavior, hardcoded in our mind to protect and stimulate our development during childhood. This mind-program uses powerful emotion to compel children to seek:

  • Safety – seeking protection upon adults.
  • Mental development – seeking leadership validation and guidance.
  • Emotional and physical development – seeking adult’s love and care.

It starts at birth and is supposed to be terminating just before puberty, when the young adult is meant to enter the phase of emotional self-reliance. Young adults terminate their Emotional Dependency using models of self-reliance learned from parents and caretakers. Unfortunately, most parents are either emotional absents or over-caring, and in most cases affected by Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) themselves; thus, they are unable to provide efficient emotional self-reliance models.


Without proper emotional self-reliant education, the young adult doesn’t own the necessary awareness and tools required to reach emotional independence. Thus, this ensures Emotional Dependency stays active after puberty, transferring the compelling need for leadership, love, safety, validation and guidance from ‘parents’ to ‘others’, i.e. friends, partners, colleagues, social environment, and may carry on through the entire life. This is the condition defined as Adult Emotional Dependency (AED).

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) in adulthood is the cause of the symptoms related to being emotionally dependent upon ‘others’; these include fear of rejection, abandonment, judgment, narcissism, emotional numbness, solitude, lack of confidence, lack of identity etc., and byproducts such as anxiety, addictions, depression, lack of focus, confusion, overwhelm and more. Because anxiety and fear use a large amount of brain resources, Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) massively misuses brainpower causing poor performances in every aspect of life, work, school and sport.

Adult Emotional Dependency terminates only if Emotional Self-Reliance is implemented. As soon the missing parental self-reliance models are acquired, AED ceases and the connected emotional consequences are cleared.  The emotional freedom produced by the termination of AED, provides the ability to transform the needs produced by dependency to the autonomy of choice offered by interdependency; it also frees all the brainpower misused by AED, which becomes available for high-performance, creativity and happiness. 

Problem | Cause | Solution

The problem : Dependency Causes Suffering

Our human nature is to become self-reliant and emotionally independent in adulthood. Emotionally independent individuals are able to interact freely and comfortably with partners, families, friends and community – from a place of equality and personal empowerment. This allows us to be socially inter-dependent, the ability to interact and share our lives with people by free choice – not constrained by fear and need.

Emotional dependency in adulthood builds complex and painful layers of anxiety and fear and typically results in several debilitating emotions/feelings. These include, fear of rejection, judgment and abandonment, social and performance anxiety, confidence and relationship issues, neediness, numbness, insecurity, narcissism, arrogance, sadness, loneliness, procrastination, addictions, and in severe cases, depression. Dependency also overwhelms our brainpower, thereby reducing our overall performance capabilities.

Cause: Missing Parental Models is the cause of dependency

Emotional Dependency

We are born with the tools needed to become emotionally mature and self-reliant as we move from childhood into young adulthood. During our childhood these tools remain undeveloped and/or dormant, causing us to be dependent on our parents or guardians. As we approach puberty our natural need for self-leadership and emotional independence begin to awaken with the purpose of converting our relationships from dependent to independent. The level of success we achieve in our transition to emotional independence is determined by the life-models we learned from our parents.

Though this is Nature’s plan, it frequently fails because our parents and/or guardians have not achieved emotional independence themselves, so they cannot model and teach these essential life skills to their children. Without good parental models of self-leadership and self-reliance we become either unaware or unable to make the shift from dependency to self-reliance. This missing developmental stage keeps us unable to self-satisfy our emotional needs throughout our life, thus emotionally dependent from the world around us. This highly vulnerable state causes a variety of consequences and unhealthy behaviors related to emotional dependency. In severe cases can cause feelings of isolation, leading to self-medication through alcohol, drugs, or to other unhealthy behaviors including depression, violence or suicide.

Solution: Presenting and Implementing A Model of Self-Leadership

A fast and natural solution to Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) is offered by CognitiveOS Hypnosis®, a proven 13-session ( 3-5 weeks)  mind training program, which helps you conquer emotional independence and release all unwanted layers of anxiety and fear. By clearing your mind and making inefficient behaviors built around dependency obsolete, your mind will redirect your brainpower towards creating efficient behaviors, performance, self-confidence, efficiency, clarity, and happiness.

In the first 13 sessions CognitiveOS Hypnosis® provides an emotional framework that mimics the parental models needed to provide the confidence of self-leadership. Once the framework is in-place and the capacity for self-reliance is engaged, CognitiveOS Hypnosis®™ guides and trains your mind to clear away unwanted layers of anxiety and fears.

Within a couple of weeks of completing the program daily feelings of isolation created by dependency are transformed into the ability to relate comfortably and inter-dependently, through the prism of choice and not need, with others. The effect is staggering – the isolation created by dependency is transformed to enjoyable inter-dependent relationships with others – where you finally see and enjoy the world around you without anxiety or fears, acting by choice instead of need. Obsolete behaviors built around dependency thus disappear – allowing the mind to redirect the reclaimed brainpower and use it to achieve higher levels of performance, efficiency and happiness in every area of your life.

The Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) Symptoms

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED)  causes the symptoms related to the ‘need for others’ as source of protection and emotional fulfillment:

Fear of experiencing:

  • Judgment
  • Rejection
  • Abandonment

Belief in the need for:

  • External leadership and validation
  • Over-giving to being a ‘pleaser’
  • Accepting abuse to get affection

Feelings of:

  • Self-doubt
  • Neediness and self-focus
  • Inadequacy
  • Social anxiety
  • Chronic insecurity
  • Lacking an identity
  • Being a fraud and a failure
  • Being a child in a world of adults
  • Resentment for the lack of external leadership and support

Emotional dependency throughout adult life creates:

  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Addictions
  • Feeling overwhelmed and tired
  • Depression
  • Dependency in relationships
  • Loneliness and solitude
  • Loss of spirit-mind connection
  • Panic attacks
  • Chronic anger
  • Unwarranted fears
  • An inferiority complex
  • Antisocial tendencies
  • Emotional and spiritual numbness
  • Borderline personality
  • Unsuccessful personal life and relationships
  • Unfulfilled artistic and professional aspirations

Living without Adult Emotional Dependency (AED)

Terminate Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) will allow you to:

  • Become emotionally self-sufficient and independent.
  • Transform dependency to interdependency.
  • Enhance strengths and confidence – establishing leadership in the professional and personal life.
  • Clear the real cause of addictions – taking control over life’s events.
  • Manage successfully thoughts, feelings and emotions.
  • Enhance creative, academic, artistic and athletic performances.
  • Spark attraction – experiencing fulfilling, happy and balanced relationships.
  • Clear procrastination, getting things done – achieving life-long goals.
  • Free your natural powers – gaining efficiency and success in every aspects of life.
  • Establish an efficient spirit-mind alignment – accessing unconditional happiness.
  • Fully capitalize on the therapeutic and self-development work done in the past, and the future efforts invested in personal development.

To recap

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Anxiety, fear, procrastination, alcohol and drug addiction, depression, poor confidence, feeling overwhelmed, sadness and more… are in most cases, direct byproducts of Adult Emotional Dependency (AED).

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Mind training- CognitiveOS Hypnosis® helps you to self-reparent your mind and body, terminate Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) and consequently remove anxiety and the related conditions. This allows efficiency, confidence, leadership, creativity, success and happiness in every aspect of your life.

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