Adult Emotional Dependency (AED )


Become emotionally self-reliant clearing the root-causes of anxiety, fear and addictions.

Mind Fitness™ allows you to claim your natural emotional independence. With a program of spiritual guidance and life coaching blended with guided meditations in hypnosis, you will clear anxieties and fears, learn self-reliance, release Adult Emotional Dependency AED, improve performances and allow happiness. Mind Fitness™ provides the knowledge of how to “Lead, Love and Train Your Mind” and the tools to implement it.

The problem : Dependency Causes Suffering

Our human nature is to become self-reliant and emotionally independent in adulthood. Emotionally independent individuals are able to interact freely and comfortably with partners, families, friends and community – from a place of equality and personal empowerment. This allows us to be socially inter-dependent, the ability to interact and share our lives with people by free choice – not constrained by fear and need.

Emotional dependency in adulthood builds complex and painful layers of anxiety and fear and typically results in several debilitating emotions/feelings. These include, fear of rejection, judgment and abandonment, social and performance anxiety, confidence and relationship issues, neediness, numbness, insecurity, narcissism, arrogance, sadness, loneliness, procrastination, addictions, and in severe cases, depression. Dependency also overwhelms our brainpower, thereby reducing our overall performance capabilities.

Cause: Missing Parental Models is the cause of dependency

We are born with the tools needed to become emotionally mature and self-reliant as we move from childhood into young adulthood. During our childhood these tools remain undeveloped and/or dormant, causing us to be dependent on our parents or guardians. As we approach puberty our natural need for self-leadership and emotional independence begin to awaken with the purpose of converting our relationships from dependent to independent. The level of success we achieve in our transition to emotional independence is determined by the life-models we learned from our parents.

Though this is Nature’s plan, it frequently fails because our parents and/or guardians have not achieved emotional independence themselves, so they cannot model and teach these essential life skills to their children. Without good parental models of self-leadership and self-reliance we become either unaware or unable to make the shift from dependency to self-reliance. This missing developmental stage keeps us unable to self-satisfy our emotional needs throughout our life, thus emotionally dependent from the world around us. This highly vulnerable state causes a variety of consequences and unhealthy behaviors related to emotional dependency. In severe cases can cause feelings of isolation, leading to self-medication through alcohol, drugs, or to other unhealthy behaviors including depression, violence or suicide.

Solution: Presenting and Implementing A Model of Self-Leadership

Mind Fitness™ helps you to conquer emotional independence, releasing all unwanted layers of anxiety and fear. By clearing your mind and making inefficient behaviors built around dependency obsolete, your mind will redirect your brainpower towards creating efficient behaviors, performance, self-confidence, efficiency, clarity, and happiness.

The 12 session basic program of emotional and spiritual education blended with guided meditations, provides an emotional framework that mimics the parental models needed to provide the confidence of self-leadership. Once the framework is in-place and the capacity for self-reliance is engaged, Mind Fitness™ guides and trains your mind to clear away unwanted layers of anxiety and fears. Within a couple of weeks of completing the program daily feelings of isolation created by dependency are transformed into the ability to relate comfortably and inter-dependently, through the prism of choice and not need, with others.

The effect is staggering – the isolation created by dependency is transformed to enjoyable inter-dependent relationships with others – where you finally see and enjoy the world around you without anxiety or fears, acting by choice instead of need. Obsolete behaviors built around dependency thus disappear – allowing the mind to redirect the reclaimed brainpower and use it to achieve higher levels of performance, efficiency and happiness in every area of your life.

The AED symtoms


AED causes the symptoms related to the ‘need for others’ as source of protection and emotional fulfillment:

Fear of experiencing:

  • Judgment
  • Rejection
  • Abandonment

Belief in the need for:

  • External leadership and validation
  • Over-giving to being a ‘pleaser’
  • Accepting abuse to get affection

Feelings of:

  • Self-doubt
  • Neediness and self-focus
  • Inadequacy
  • Social anxiety
  • Chronic insecurity
  • Lacking an identity
  • Being a fraud and a failure
  • Being a child in a world of adults
  • Resentment for the lack of external leadership and support

Emotional dependency throughout adult life creates:

  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Addictions
  • Feeling overwhelmed and tired
  • Depression
  • Dependency in relationships
  • Loneliness and solitude
  • Loss of spirit-mind connection
  • Panic attacks
  • Chronic anger
  • Unwarranted fears
  • An inferiority complex
  • Antisocial tendencies
  • Emotional and spiritual numbness
  • Borderline personality
  • Unsuccessful personal life and relationships
  • Unfulfilled artistic and professional aspirations

Living without AED


  • Become emotionally self-sufficient and independent.
  • Enhance strengths and confidence – establishing leadership in the professional and personal life.
  • Clear the real cause of addictions – taking control over life’s events.
  • Manage successfully thoughts, feelings and emotions.
  • Enhance creative, academic, artistic and athletic performances.
  • Spark attraction – experiencing fulfilling, happy and balanced relationships.
  • Clear procrastination, getting things done – achieving life-long goals.
  • Free the natural powers – gaining efficiency and success in every aspects of life.
  • Establish an efficient spirit-mind alignment – accessing unconditional happiness.
  • Fully capitalize on the therapeutic and self-development work done in the past, and the future efforts invested in personal development.

What is Emotional Dependency?

Precious in childhood – devastating in adulthood.

The hidden secret of anxiety revealed… Voice Paul Skye

We grew in a society chocked by mental and emotional distress. Most of our friends are battling with anxiety, poor confidence and depression. We feel that this is the by-product of our culture, and we learn how to drink or meditate to cope with it. Our passive approach has grown this global mental crisis to be the number one illness on the planet. Do we want to carry on coping, or shall we focus clearing the cause of our pains, and make this world a better place?

With 25 years of research and healing the mind, I realized that we are targeting the wrong culprits, focusing mind-healing on traumas and bad habits. Working successfully with over 3,000 clients, I’ve proved that traumas are just secondary causes in mental challenges, and poor habits are often merely byproducts. The unspoken cause, responsible for most of the anxiety, fear and addictions that dramatically affect our society, lies in a condition still unexplored: Adult Emotional Dependency (AED).

Adult Emotional Dependency (AED) defines the devastating mental condition caused by the continuation in adulthood of Emotional Dependency – a vital behavior, hardcoded in our mind to protect and stimulate our development during childhood.

Adult Emotional Dependency AEDDuring Childhood, we learn how to become self-sufficient adults. Throughout this period, children are inexperienced, vulnerable and unaware of their needs – thus, nature has included in human’s DNA a hard-coded behavior that actively compels in kids the need of been cared, protected, loved, validated and guided by their parents and caretakers. This precious behavior, defined as Emotional Dependency, is programmed by nature to terminate as soon we become self-reliant, typically just before puberty.

Children learn self-reliance from their parents, which are typically great educator in the physical aspect of becoming independent, teaching their children how to eat, dress, take care of their bodies and generate income. Unfortunately, most parents are unaware of the emotional side of self-reliance, being Emotional Dependent in adulthood themselves, therefore they don’t teach their kids the skills to self-provide love, validation, protection and guidance.

If you don’t know that you can or you have to do it, you don’t do it. Therefore, young adults don’t embrace their own emotional fulfillments. This, lack of self-reliance keeps active Emotional Dependency in adulthood, which carries on compelling emotional needs yet redirected from parents to friends, partners, colleagues and people in general. But people are not surrogating parents bound by parental love, thus are usually unwilling and unable to satisfy our emotional needs. This is felt as rejection and lack of support, triggering fear of rejection, judgment, abandonment, lack of confidence, lack of identity, feeling unsafe, being a people pleaser, narcissism or emotionally numb if the pain is too great, and byproducts such as anxiety, fear, anger, addiction sadness, social anxiety, isolation, neediness, confusion, overwhelm and feeling stuck, poor performance, procrastination, lack of focus, depression and addictions. These emotional struggles massively misuse brainpower causing poor performances in every aspect of life, work, school and sport. This condition defines Adult Emotional Dependency (AED). Adult Emotional Dependency (AED)

Fortunately, we can resolve these condition in a rather short time implementing emotional self-reliance. As soon the missing parental self-reliance models are acquired and implemented, AED ceases and the connected emotional consequences are cleared. The emotional freedom produced by the termination of AED, provides the ability to transform the needs produced by dependency to the autonomy of choice offered by interdependency; it also frees all the brainpower misused by AED, which becomes available for high-performance, creativity and happiness.


Excerpt of the Tech Talk – ‘Reaching Pick Mind Performance’ @ Google Global Head Office Venice -CA11/8/2016 – Voice P. Skype

This short tale features a girl that grows-up in a household that is not aware about emotional self-reliant ei. self-love, self-protection and self-leadership (the running water) – and depicts the transformation that she experiences when she discovers her own powers.

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